I often tell people that I have no control over my children. I couldn't make them stop kicking me in the womb so why would I delude myself into thinking I can make them do anything now? All I can do is model the behavior I want to see from them and know them well enough to see what's coming if I don't get them out of a situation.
There is a cliche in self-help programs referred to HALT. It's a signal to never let yourself get too Hungry, too Angry, too Lonely or too Tired. Everyone will start to fall apart when they hit those breakpoints. Think about it... it's the beginning of desperation, which leads to those things you can't ever take back.
Our children are kind, caring and full of enthusiasm for life! They love each other and are sisters, meaning they are the best of friends and the worst of enemies. They miss each other, but savor the time away from their sister. A little adventure alone is a good thing and necessary to everyone's sanity.
Today we spent a calm day as a family. We played games, read some books and did gymnastics. The girls held hands in the car as we went to Nana and Papa's house for dinner to enjoy some extended family time. The kids loved seeing their cousins as usual and tonight Ashley was there too. She commented on how intelligent and observant Samantha is, and how Sofia and Samantha's personalities are so opposite. Sofia is free with her affections and has no fear of jumping in while Samantha prefers to watch the dynamic initially, though she has no fear either. They are so different, but in our family they complement each other well.
It's a good thing and I am proud to say that I have no control over my children!
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